Most guys who try online dating FAIL miserably.
Online dating SEEMS like a great idea… doesn't it?
You sit down at your computer, logon to the online dating website, and start emailing all kinds of hot babes… with no fear of “rejection” or confrontation. And then they email you back, get to know “the real you”, build a relationship in a friendly, low-key way, and eventually go out on a date…
Wouldn't it be GREAT if that was how it actually worked?
Well, if you've actually TRIED online dating, then you KNOW it's not like that AT ALL.
In fact, if you've tried it out, then you know that it can actually be MORE challenging than meeting women in the “real world”.
Why is this?
Well, for starters, it's this way because almost EVERY GUY is thinking this same “ideal fantasy” about online dating. And the online dating companies aren't exactly “downplaying” how difficult it is to REALLY meet women online.
But there's another reason… a more IMPORTANT reason…
Let me ask you something…
Have you ever been to an “average” bar or nightclub? You know the kind I'm talking about. It's just OK… the booze is cheap, the music is predictable, and the people are all pretty boring.
But at every one of those places, there's always a HOT girl or two. She's the one that everyone is looking at… and the one that all the guys want to talk to…
And guess what? All the guys ARE talking to her.
To the point where she is both enjoying the attention a little… AND also getting annoyed at them… because they're so THE SAME.
So with this in mind, guess what it's like to be an attractive woman with an ad on an online dating website?
Right. It's TEN TIMES worse.
It's common for a woman to get fifty or even a HUNDRED responses from men in a SINGLE DAY.
And just like the hot woman in the bar, the attractive woman with the online profile is experiencing one predictable, boring, lame introduction after another…
“Hi, you're really beautiful. How about I take you out to your favorite restaurant, then to a movie. I'd like to get to know you better…”
“I realize that I'm probably not your type, but I thought I'd try anyway. If you'd give me a chance, I'd show you that I'm the nicest guy you could ever want…”
“Hello, read my profile and let me know if you're interested…”
Microsoft should build a feature into Windows that actually reaches out and BITCH SLAPS any man that types these words in response to a woman's online dating profile.
Anyway, you get the point.
Attractive women are SMOTHERED by responses from boring, predictable, lame guys who communicate low self-esteem and approval seeking indicators. It's sad.
It Doesn't Have To Be This Way!
All that said, I have been able to meet MANY attractive women online. In fact, as I write this, I met my last two long-term girlfriends online.
I've met and dated models, actresses, dancers… artists… intellectual women… and everything in between… consistently and successfully… all online.
I taught myself to TYPE by chatting with women online.
And I perfected my “Cocky & Funny” technique talking to women… you guessed it… online.
The question is:
Why is it that I have been able to have consistent success with online dating, while most guys spend hours and hours trying to find “the key”, only to fail?
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Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Thursday, July 1, 2010
“How To Get A Girlfriend”
I think that a lot of guys wonder “Is there anything I should do DIFFERENTLY if I'd like to turn a casual date into a girlfriend?”
The reason why I'd like to address this question is I think many guys wonder if they should do something DIFFERENT if they'd like to pursue a relationship with a woman as opposed to just dating her a few times for short-term fun.
I personally think that women have a basic program when it comes to men that are potential romantic interests. It says, “If he chases me, run. If he doesn't chase me, chase him.”
Of course, this is a big generalization, and it doesn't always hold true… but it's true enough in most situations.
If you call a woman all the time, she'll probably not call you. If you take a woman to dinner 4 times in a week, she probably won't be inviting you over for dinner at her place.
On the other hand, if you go out with a woman and she has a GREAT time with you, then you don't call for a couple of days, or maybe you call once for 3 minutes to tell her that you're busy and make plans for a few days later, SHE WILL BE THINKING ABOUT YOU ALL THE TIME.
If you do seem like you're into a relationship, then a woman has a much bigger decision to make, and will be taking all kinds of things into consideration… little gestures will take on new meaning.
If you're ONLY looking for a “relationship”, then this will come across in all your dealings with women. You'll be asking different questions, answering questions differently, and playing for the long term. This can create all kinds of problems when done "too much too soon".
The reason why I'd like to address this question is I think many guys wonder if they should do something DIFFERENT if they'd like to pursue a relationship with a woman as opposed to just dating her a few times for short-term fun.
I personally think that women have a basic program when it comes to men that are potential romantic interests. It says, “If he chases me, run. If he doesn't chase me, chase him.”
Of course, this is a big generalization, and it doesn't always hold true… but it's true enough in most situations.
If you call a woman all the time, she'll probably not call you. If you take a woman to dinner 4 times in a week, she probably won't be inviting you over for dinner at her place.
On the other hand, if you go out with a woman and she has a GREAT time with you, then you don't call for a couple of days, or maybe you call once for 3 minutes to tell her that you're busy and make plans for a few days later, SHE WILL BE THINKING ABOUT YOU ALL THE TIME.
If you do seem like you're into a relationship, then a woman has a much bigger decision to make, and will be taking all kinds of things into consideration… little gestures will take on new meaning.
If you're ONLY looking for a “relationship”, then this will come across in all your dealings with women. You'll be asking different questions, answering questions differently, and playing for the long term. This can create all kinds of problems when done "too much too soon".
Sweet Things to Say to Your Girlfriend
I love kissing with you
My girlfriend and me have been together for few years already. But still, everytime we kiss, I remember our first kiss (which, to be frank, was quite awful, I was thinking – is it me, or her – which one does not know how to kiss?).
However I remember my first kiss not because it was worst our kiss ever, but because every our other kisses are better and better. And, yes, i guess, it is hard to think like that after few years of kissing everyday. Anyway, I love kissing with my girlfriend and probably I should let her know that…
I love kissing with you..
Some more sweet things to say:
You are the love of my life
I never knew what love is… until I’ve met you
You are my beautiful one!
You became part of me
7 Sweet Things to Say to Your Girlfriend – Weekend Edition @5
I love the way you smile
I love to hold you in my arms
My girlfriend and me have been together for few years already. But still, everytime we kiss, I remember our first kiss (which, to be frank, was quite awful, I was thinking – is it me, or her – which one does not know how to kiss?).
However I remember my first kiss not because it was worst our kiss ever, but because every our other kisses are better and better. And, yes, i guess, it is hard to think like that after few years of kissing everyday. Anyway, I love kissing with my girlfriend and probably I should let her know that…
I love kissing with you..
Some more sweet things to say:
You are the love of my life
I never knew what love is… until I’ve met you
You are my beautiful one!
You became part of me
7 Sweet Things to Say to Your Girlfriend – Weekend Edition @5
I love the way you smile
I love to hold you in my arms
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